We call it Grit.

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Call it tenacity. Call it perseverance. Call it determination, stick-to-it-ness, not giving up.

Hell, some even call it foolish behavior – that is until you succeed and then they call it brilliance.

We call it grit.

It’s the quality that helps each and every one of us makes it through the hard times in pursuit of a goal, a next level, a better life.

And it’s the quality that we often admire most in our heroes: that they never gave up. When the going got tough, they dug in, got creative, tried something new, and broke through despite the odds.

And you can argue that the times have changed, but grit is also a quality that feels – or at least used to feel – authentically American. We love the story of the underdog that won against all odds.

Think about it. We love these stories.They feel as American as apple pie. It’s a core part of our identity as Americans and our belief in the ever debated concept of the American Dream.

We celebrate these stories and ideas in film constantly – Rudy, Rocky, The Miracle, SeaBiscuit, the list goes on. And even more movies (and a whole lot of Oscar winners) that chronicle similar stories of tenacious and relentless believers – Jobs, Braveheart, The Pianist, The Pursuit of Happyness, Erin Brockovich, even Legally Blonde!

These stories inspire us to greatness. They remind us that even the greats in this world struggle, but it’s their refusal to let up, to slow down, or to quit that makes them a success. Sure, maybe they have some talent, but what makes them truly unique is their grit.

We seem to be ever more steeped in these stories of hope and faith and inspiration, but there are signs that as a culture, we are growing less gritty over time. There is significant research that shows that today’s American students are less resilient than previous generations. The experts (and the peanut gallery) are still debating the cause of this decline in tenacity with fingers being pointed in the general directions of helicopter parents, participation awards, and social media.

But that’s not my worry.

Because it’s not too late – not for any of us.

It’s never too late to find your own grit and sharpen that skill like you would any other. I know it can seem daunting or even impossible, but I promise it’s not. And that’s what we’re going to show you.

And no, we don’t have it all figured out ourselves. Grittiness is a practice for us too. And though there is starting to be more content, more advice, more guidance on how to get tough and persevere, there still isn’t much.

In our experience, most of us learn grit by stumbling onto it ourselves, testing to determine what works and what doesn’t.

No one goes to school to learn grit. Maybe your parents instilled it in you, but most of ours didn’t. I know I was a thoroughly ungritty kid. A lot of things came naturally to me, so I simply avoided anything that didn’t. As a result, I was lazy, undisciplined, and unfocused.

I learned grit in 2 ways.

  1. Through physical fitness. I was a drama geek and a book nerd. I was not an athlete. But in my 20s I discovered a love of lifting heavy things and it was hard. Like really really hard. But working with a coach (who is now my partner in the Field Guide to Grit!), sticking to a plan and showing up 5 days a week no matter what made me way tougher.
  2. Through a variety of health struggles. I’ve got a genetic, degenerative, neurological disease called CMT, an auto-immune thyroid disease called Hashimoto’s, and I was recently diagnosed with Lyme disease, a tick-borne bacterial infection. And the only way I can feel healthy is through consistent effort and hard work.

But our goal here is to give you the insight you need to get on the right path toward find your own version of grit and summoning its power to get you through the hard times and onto the path of success, opportunity, and yes, even happiness.

To better understand how grit works, how un-gritty people get gritty, and how you can get gritty too, we’re talking to the toughest, grittiest, most resilient people we know to understand how they summon their courage, strength, and relentlessness when things get hard.

  • How they get moving again when they feel stuck.
  • How they know what step to take first (and how to take it even when they don’t really know at all).
  • Who they rely on to give them support, advice, and inspiration during the tough times.
  • What tools, processes, and frameworks they use to keep on trucking.
  • How they form habits that make grittiness a default instead of a constant active choice.
  • When and how they discovered their “why,” their motivating force, the fuel to their fire.
  • Where they seek knowledge, education, and yes, more inspiration.

And more.

Join us. Join the movement. Get gritty. Accomplish things you never thought possible. 

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Strengthen Your Grit Books: How to be a badass by Jen Sincero

As I think you can tell, a primary tenet of Field Guide to Grit is to always be learning, which is why we’re always recommending grit strengthening books, podcasts, articles, and more.

Leveling up your life is a whole lot easier when you’re consuming helpful advice, information, inspiration, and how-to guides for learning a new skill, refining a particular mental model, or creating an improved habit. Early in any journey, it is important to read and follow a specific program. Trust the advice of someone that has been there before and is offering instructional guidance on how to follow in their footsteps.

The trick, however, is keeping in mind that you’re different than that mentor, guide, or expert. This means that what worked for them may not work for you. More often than not, you’ll need to follow their program perfectly to then decipher which elements apply to you and which do not.

The idea here is to be humble and learn, but don’t be dogmatic. Use their advice to strengthen your grit, not simply borrow theirs.

A helpful analogy: Think about how we approach restrictive diets. At first, being dogmatic and a touch militant is required to see big results. When you first make the transition from the Standard American Diet (aka the SAD) to something else – Vegan! Paleo! Keto! Whole30! – whatever it is, it’s critical that you follow it to a tee. But after 3-6 months, once you’ve hit your groove, it’s okay to start testing slight deviations. A vegan might test the occasional fish. Someone going paleo might try beans on occasion or a little cheese.

The idea is that you learn the plan and then through testing, you uncover which parts work for you and which do not. As a result, you transform a standard plan into your plan. You take the best of it and make it yours!

In the spirit of learning from others, we’ll be sharing the books, articles, and programs that we’ve been consuming, learning from, and incorporating into our daily routines, mindsets, and frameworks for running our lives.

Strengthen your Grit Book Review!

You are a Badass: How to stop doubting your greatness and start living an awesome life – by Jen Sincero

grit inspiration book review I didn’t read this book. I listened to it. And holy moly, did it feel like a jump start, a cold shower on a hot day, a smack on the butt (in a good way!), and a jolt of energy!

It was one of the first audiobooks I listened to after discovering that my 15 hours of political podcasts every week was making me angry, worried, and stressed. And boy, did it set a different tone in my life.

At times, Jen Sincero is so over-the-top about her practical positivity that I laughed or even rolled my eyes, but she still made me feel totally pumped about my life and full of self-faith, belief, and esteem that I was craving. Often times, self-help books – particularly ones about positivity – tend to be a little overly earnest, taking themselves a bit seriously. Sincero most decidedly does not take herself too seriously. She shares funny and embarrassing, but motivating and inspiring stories. And she makes it clear that the simple, concrete steps can help you make helpful leaps forward.

This book is not going to save your life, but it just might serve as the reminder that you already have all the smarts, passion, and motivation to save your life all by yourself. Buy the paperback now or download the audiobook and get ridiculously motivated to live the life you’ve been too scared to even dream of.

Weekly Grit List – January 21, 2018

Weekly Grit List – January 21, 2018

Fitness (Mind, Body, and Soul)

Improving your health, treating disease or illness, and generally just feeling better and more alive is a different experience for women. We aren’t always given the time, trust, and respect that we deserve. Recently, I spent some time reflecting on my own experiences with this. And got more than a little angry.  – Kasey

How the medical industry gaslights women. And how to fight back. 

Finance (At work or at home)

If you want to be a leader, you have to make learning a core part of your focus. And yeah, this is going to impact your bottom line.

Jocko Podcast – To be a leader, you must be a llifelong learner – Hal Moore on Leadership

Faith (In yourself, in the world, in a higher power)

I know we’re a week late, but admittedly seeing the flood of MLK quotes last week had an impact. So, in honor of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and his incredible impact on our country, we leave you with this quote.

“Faith is taking the first step even when you can’t see the entire staircase.” MLK, Jr.

Family (Given or chosen)

Sabastian Junger’s book called TRIBE is all about how suffering and adversity brings community together like nothing else. Such a thought-provoking read, I immediately started reading it again to keep the thoughts front of mind as I navigate my own community.

Fun (We hope this one is self-explanatory)

Question: What in your life do you do for the sake of doing, not for the outcome? Whether it is martial arts, video games, hiking, creating your art… something in your world is about the journey. If you’re having a hard time with this, you are not alone.

Action Tip: Brainstorm and make sure that you’ve got something fun on your calendar this week.

Don’t think. Just start.

My fierce, inspiring, and gritty as all get out friend, Lauren Prince, sent me the video below recently. And the message resonated loud and clear. When we’re down, when we’re low, scared, and struggling, we often feel paralyzed. Taking even the simplest step forward feels impossible.

During my divorce, I would often have total meltdowns, all out sob-filled panic attacks, when I would say “I can’t do it” over and over and over again. I didn’t really even know what I meant. I had nothing in mind when I’d say “it.” I didn’t know what I couldn’t do, but I was sure that I couldn’t.

Move on, have a normal life, climb out of our immense marital debt, feel joy again, be healthy…face the world. Whatever it was, I was sure it was beyond me.

And I kept searching for some big answer. For a long while, I kept trying to plan what my new life would look like. I was convinced I needed to figure it out, whatever the hell that meant.

And then I just started doing. Sometimes it was just random things that moved me. I followed my gut. I bought a weird 70s almost pornographic painting from a thrift store because I couldn’t stop thinking about it. On a trip to Vegas with Andy, I rented a yellow Camaro and we saw the Grand Canyon. I started reading more. I wrote 750 words a day for a while. I traveled to Cuba and Lebanon.

And now the doing is a way of being. I’ve started a business. I’m beginning this Grit project with Josh. I took a carpentry class and built a bench for my entry way. I learned how to knit (terribly, but we’ll get there).

Watch this video and do it – whatever the heck it is.

How the medical industry gaslights women. And how to fight back.

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This afternoon, I read “Can New Research Validate Women’s Pain,” an article by Jordan Rosenfeld about new research into why women are so much more likely to experience autoimmune disease than men. For context, Rosenfeld explains some of the challenges that women face in coping with and even being diagnosed with autoimmune diseases.

Even more, the article discussed how long it takes women to be diagnosed. Doctors shrug their shoulders and dismiss patients’ symptoms, ignoring or disbelieving their pain, their fatigue, their brain fog, telling them it’s normal to be so tired or prescribing them antidepressants.

Still worse these diseases are largely ignored by the medical industry as a whole. Despite their prevalence and far reaching impact, the research and treatment options are minimal.

The result is that women feel crazy.

They suffer for years with no help, no direction, and sometimes worse, no compassion. I have a hard time believe that if the sufferers were mostly men instead of women, serious illnesses such as Lupus and Hashimoto’s wouldn’t get more attention and funding.

Frankly, it’s the medical version of gaslighting.

Rosenfeld’s article tells a couple of stories, shares a few statistics, but is mostly a review of recent science, describing in-depth the chromosomal and genetic research that is helping scientists understand why women suffer from these diseases far more than men. I’m not a doctor or a scientist, so I had to read these paragraphs a few times to understand the implications. I tell you this only to say that the article was mostly dry, a little dense, and ordinarily wouldn’t fit my criteria for a moving or inspiring piece of journalism.

And yet here I am, a few hours later, unable to focus on anything else and struggling not to cry in public. The slightest increase in journalistic coverage of this phenomenon feels like the health version of the #metoo campaign.

I have two autoimmune diseases: Hashimoto’s, which attacks my thyroid, and Lyme disease, which attacks damn near everything. On top of that, I was born with a genetic degenerative neurological disease called Charcot-Marie-Tooth (CMT). It’s not autoimmune, but its impact feels similar in a number of ways: there are few treatments and no cure; symptoms are disparate and come in waves; doctors are ignorant or dismissive; and people are disbelieving or pitying. 

The result of living with these three diseases is that I feel constantly conflicted.

I am adamant about being communicative, sharing details, being honest and transparent about my experience because I think the stigma attached is immensely unfair and I feel a responsibility to do my part in fighting against it.

Yet at the same time, I constantly worry that I am being needy, weak, or melodramatic.

I am proud of my perseverance through it all. That I take my dozens of supplements and medications, eat my restrictive diet, continuously rebound from illnesses, injuries, and flare-ups. And yet, I am terrified of being defined by my illness, hardship, or struggle – pigeonholed by the bad stuff in my life. This was doubly bad when my health declined suddenly while I was still recovering from my divorce. I was terrified by the idea that the sum total of my life would be that I survived a whole lot of shit.

I want more. I want to be more, be defined by more. Sure, I want the credit for my resilience, but also for my joy, intelligence, passion, drive, empathy. I don’t want any of it glossed over. Which, in the age of social media, sensationalized news, buzzfeed listicles, Instagram stories, and all the rest, seems damn near impossible.

There is immense pressure to be summed up by a clever tagline, a 250 character profile description, an easily understood category. 

But in my experience, owning, honoring, and expressing all of me is my only path to happiness.

That’s why these dismissive medical experiences are so devastating. While you’re desperately trying to cope with acute symptoms – pain, fatigue, memory loss, and more – you’re also essentially being called a liar.  A supposed expert, someone you’re supposed to trust, respect, and honor is telling you that you don’t understand your own body, your own self. It throws you off kilter. It shakes you to your core. And it makes you doubt damn near everything.

When it comes to my health, I have been doubted by medical professionals, work colleagues or bosses, friends, and lovers far more times than I can count. In every scenario, the reality of my situation has been proven – immediately, within days, or in some cases years later. I have been vindicated.

And yet the self doubt remains. It’s immensely difficult to shake off. 

When I’m not doubting the existence of my symptoms, I’m often believing their severity is psychosomatic – the result of feminine hysteria, mental instability, or melodrama. Other times, I feel the health version of imposter syndrome, telling myself that because my own death is not imminent, I don’t deserve the right to make an issue of my health.

But here’s what I cling to, what I remind myself as often as I possibly can: I’ve made it through because I haven’t kept quiet.

Listening to my gut and being persistent is why I have ultimately gotten the diagnoses and treatments that I’ve needed. Doctors told me, “Don’t worry! Everything is fine! You work full time and go to grad school at night. Of course you’re tired!” But I didn’t give up. I did research. Read blogs. Asked friends. Demanded more tests. And got second, third, fourth, and yes, fifth opinions.

Being present with the emotional struggle from my health is why I have been able to not just muddle through, but grow stronger and more compassionate. It takes constant practice and I am by no means an expert, but every time I allow myself to process my grief and anxiety, a weight is lifted. Suddenly, I am reminded of my own resilience – starkly aware that courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to press forward in the face of it.

Continuously forcing myself to share my experience with others is why I have developed closer, deeper relationships with people whom I deeply respect and cherish. My vulnerability creates space for their own and the result is an authenticity and shared experience that superficial social media posts or banter over drinks cannot possibly match.

As I’ve grown more insistently honest about my health – with doctors, with myself, with the world – it has helped develop the strength to be similarly more honest about the rest of me too. My needs and wants, my fears and anxieties, and my hopes and dreams.

Perhaps the worst part of this tendency of the medical community to doubt women is that it causes us to doubt ourselves. In our health, in relationships, at work, with friends, in every aspect of our lives. We become less likely to fight back when we should, speak up when we want, and defend ourselves when we need.

To be clear, this isn’t an attempt to minimize, explain away, and present the sunny side of the impact of the medical community’s tendency to ignore women in general, and women with autoimmune disease in particular. In a sense, it’s a call to action.

For all the women out there in pain, suffering with their health, experiencing something similar, being dismissed, ignored, or demeaned by their doctors, loved ones, or employers, speak out and don’t stop.

When it scares you, shames you, exhausts you, or gaslights you, don’t stop.

Our only way out is by speaking up and speaking out over and over and over again.

You won’t get the help you need, the diagnosis you deserve, the support you’ve earned, or the peace of mind that is your right until you do. And those doctors, colleagues, and loved ones will never learn, evolve, or improve unless you do either.

Speak your truth and over time, let’s hope, the world will begin to finally listen.

5 Ways to Persevere through Tough Times

 

tim-marshall-50995My family is going through some hard times right now. Their stories aren’t mine to tell, but suffice it to say that my brother is going through a brutal, painful divorce and we’re all coming together to support him through it all. As a result, we talked a lot this Thanksgiving about muddling through the tough periods in life, how and when to ask for help, what to focus on, how to heal, and more.

I’m not too far out from my own painful divorce. My ex and I separated about a year and a half ago, finalizing our divorce a few months later. During the struggle of moving on, I’ve also dealt with a whole host of health issues, finally being diagnosed with chronic Lyme disease and beginning an intense and sometimes painful treatment protocol. 

The last two years have been incredibly transformative – at times immensely challenging, filled with anxiety, riddled with doubt, and colored by a sense of loss and failure. And yet, at times I have also felt overwhelmed by the beauty of this life, a sense of purpose and meaning, a new found confidence and comfort in my self, and the power of true and honest love.

This Thanksgiving my father asked me how I got through it all, what I tried, what worked, and what lessons stuck as I transformed my sense of self, my attitude and my life. I realized there were a few key choices that I made, some out of pure instinct and some out of lots of thought and intention, that made all the difference in my ability to create a life that is finally true and authentically me. A life that I genuinely love.

 

#1. Find a therapist. A good one.

I know many of you will balk at this advice. And many will believe this is only appropriate for whiners, crybabies, the dysfunctional, etc. If that’s your reaction, you probably need a therapist more than anyone else. Here’s the deal. A therapist will be your coach, your ally in turning the most devastating experiences into those that provide strength, wisdom, and yes, grit.

A therapist can help you process the pain of your experience, but can also help you identify your role in the outcome, so that you can learn real lessons and become a better person as a result. And a good therapist can teach you tools and frameworks to apply to the rest of your life, skills that you can use in tough times in the future – or even to prevent those future tough times.

If you think that your sole focus during difficult times must be all about project managing your struggles – negotiating separations, talking to lawyers, handling logistics – you are in for a world of hurt. Tough times affect every part of you, including your emotional self. If you don’t take that aspect seriously, you are doomed to never truly heal from your misfortune and repeat whatever mistakes you’ve made.

And let me tell you, the lessons you learn in therapy will reap rewards in every part of your life. You’ll be more self-aware which will help you build better relationships of all kinds. You’ll develop greater empathy which will make you a better leader, salesperson, and negotiator. And you’ll learn to be more present, which will make you less anxious and more productive.

Seriously. Get a therapist.

 

#2 Meditate

When you’re feeling overwhelmed by the negativity of a particular situation or person or loss, we often want to be preoccupied with activity. Or we want to be drunk. Or we want to be numb to all the feelings, by watching mindless television, entranced by social media, or distracted by some sort of amusement.

Fight the urge to be distracted all the time. Be present. And slow the fuck down.

Meditation does wonders for this. I know it can feel intimidating, but now there are a ton of great apps that make meditation accessible and actually pretty damn easy. My favorite is Headspace. They’ve got 100s of hours of guided meditations on all kinds of topics and Andy Puddicomb’s voice is amazing.

And here’s the great thing. Pretty much every super successful entrepreneur credits meditation with aiding their achievements. You’ll be more centered and more present. You’ll be less anxious and stressed. You’ll even sleep better.

Carve out 10 minutes a day and meditate. I actually describe my favorite meditation app in our 7 Tools for Getting through Hard Times Guide.

Tech world tip: if your office has phone booths, you can easily sneak off into one of those to meditate. I do it at WeWork all the time and it’s glorious.

 

#3 Express Yourself

Often when times are tough, we want to just hunker down and muddle through. I get it. I often take that strategy. I think if I can just shut up and get through everything will be okay, but usually, when I’m all the way through, I then have a lot of feelings I still need to process. One of the best ways to cope with struggles is to talk it out. Obviously, the therapist above will help with that, but getting into the practice of doing more than that will serve you in the long run.

Sharing with a friend will certainly help, but I found that regular writing made the biggest difference for me. I created a daily practice of writing 750 words a day. I made this a daily priority for a few months and still now complete this practice more often than not and it’s been transformative.

750 words is just enough to force me to go beyond the superficial and really dig into my thoughts, feelings, and perspective on certain issues. I have a running list in my bullet journal of writing prompts – subjects I find interesting, articles that spurred a reaction, quotes that inspired me – and I just write. Some have turned into blog posts and some help me strategize a tough conversation I’ve been putting off or flesh out an idea for a new project.

Tell your story. Share your struggles. Talk through it.

 

#4 Feed Yourself

During difficult personal trials, we often wind up in a sort of survival mode – focusing on the overwhelming situation and dealing with the external logistics that result. And this is necessary. You need to take care of legal, logistical, and practical issues as they arise. You do.

But eventually those externalities will begin to quiet and you’ll be left to yourself. And that’s when it’s time to take care of you.

I’m not talking about the Tom Haverford and Donna Meagle style of Treat Yo’self. No, I’m talking about giving yourself the care, attention, and rewards that you truly need. Providing opportunities for yourself that really mean something worthwhile, that deep down you’ve been longing for.

During my marriage, my ex demanded that everything include him. Every experience was at least about the two of us, and often mostly about him. And I, being a natural giver, dove right in and accommodated. But this meant that I shied away from opportunities or adventures that were for me alone. And so one of the best parts of my healing process was starting to rediscover the experiences that I wanted to have.

And so, I went with the Aspen Institute’s Fringe Diplomacy organization to Cuba. I joined a virtual book club and started reading again. I began slowly taking on little craft projects – spray painting old furniture and hanging new art. I took online classes to improve my skills in my job. I tried restaurants that had always caught my eye.

And with each new investment in myself, I felt bolder, braver, and more me.

Equally importantly, I stopped doing things that I didn’t enjoy and I stopped feeling guilty when I did. My ex was the social butterfly and I was the introvert, so I often found myself at events where I didn’t want to be, feeling awkward, tired, and stressed. And during my healing process, I just stopped. I appreciated being home with my dog, cooking new things, and just being alone.

#5 Practice Positivity 

When times are rough, it can become too easy to view the world through a lense of sadness, pain, or insecurity. Your vision gets cloudy and suddenly everything feels darker. It becomes harder to see the hope, optimism, and beauty of the world. Suddenly you can feel like the whole world is darker, sadder, and more unjust. And this inclination is often stronger when your hard times are chaotic, frantic, and all-consuming. If you’re still dealing with the constant challenging logistics of a divorce or a death, the thoughts of negativity can be downright overwhelming.

The only way you can buck the trend is through intention and practice. Yep, that can mean a little of the fake it ’til you make it. But I’ve also learned that filling my head with positive thoughts and images can make a huge difference. This year has been stressful for me because of the dire state of politics. Plus, I only separated from my ex about 18 months ago. And the company I worked for ran out of money and I started my own business. The first half of the year was pretty rough. And I realized that my habit of listening to a dozen different political podcasts each week was only adding fuel the fire of negativity.

And so I stopped. After a couple decades of political passion, I just stopped paying obsessive attention.

And I started listening to positive audiobooks, creative podcasts, and upbeat music. And I started smiling more. And getting more done, taking bigger risks, and accomplishing more.

I still read the news and consider myself informed, but it doesn’t dominate my thoughts the way it used to. Listening to happy inspired ideas has made me happier and more inspired.

I urge you to surround yourself with more news, stories, and education that inspires and empowers you. And just turn down the volume on the constant onslaught of the depressing.

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Here’s the misunderstanding about grit. People think it’s all about being tougher. Developing some kind of thick skin that gets you through anything. And sure, there’s a part of that. But if you’re not taking care of yourself, your stores of energy, resilience, and grit will simply crumble.

Grit means recognizing what you genuinely need and providing yourself with those resources, so that you can carry on.

I’ve listed the resources and practices that have helped me. What’s helped you?

Discover our 7 favorite self-care tools for getting through the hard times. 

 

In a word – Gritty

In December of 2011, I was sitting in my friend’s basement.

All of my possessions were in a backpack, aside from the car stereo I had agreed to sell to pay for another month’s rent in the basement.
I was at the end of my rope. I had just finished college (notice I did not say graduate, more on that later).
I had 26,000 worth of credit card debt (not associated with anything in particular besides wild living and one very cool trip to Thailand).
With nowhere to go but up, I began writing. On the advice of a friend, I wrote a letter of gratitude to myself for what I had accomplished in the last year. I also wrote a list of goals, no matter how wild and crazy they seemed.
So many of my favorite authors, mentors and motivational speakers begin with this moment where things are extremely dark and the obstacles seem insurmountable. In a way, I got the opportunity to follow in the footsteps of the greats, starting from the realest of the real starting points.
All the wisdom I had read, watched and listened to had told me that innate talent doesn’t matter, that all it took to succeed was essentially being “too dumb to quit.”
Now that I could definitely do.
That is the moment that I call the beginning because that’s the moment that I stopped digging myself a hole and suspended disbelief (in myself).
I decided to do the work not for a goal of money, status or power…but for a goal of becoming a different person. The kind of person that I wanted to be in the world was much different than the person I had been in the past.
The attributes I wanted to cultivate were generosity, compassion, discipline, courage and perhaps most critically: resilience.
To be the kind of person that was made better, not bitter by all of life’s obstacles and suffering. The kind of person that earned mindsets and skill sets from experiences and ultimately became stronger.
I wanted to be the kind of person that was CONSISTENTLY passionate and persistent in pursuit of my purpose – in a word…
Gritty.